One of the greatest traumas imaginable is when parents have to deal with the separation of a child. Mostly by divorce or the state legislature. Producing greater stress than dealing with the relationship-loss of a parent or spouse, a child’s absense is especially traumatic because it is often unexpected; it is also in violation of the "usual" order of things, in which the child is expected to "flock" away from the parent and start college: a profession, area of study or just their own household. The trauma associated with losing a child, whether to violence, disease,state custody or divorce, can certainly lead to devastating physical and mental health issues. In dealing with this loss, it is increasingly important to recognize the impact it can have on health and overall quality of life.